#MyMomAlwaysSays: "You're not that important."
I think the first time my mom told me this I was a pre-teen.
Wow, you might be thinking, what a shitty parent.
Actually, it’s totally the opposite. This is one of the best lessons I could have ever learned in my life, and I’m so glad I learned such humility from such a young age.
Now, I say that, but it doesn’t mean that it was easy. What my mom means when she says this is that not everyone is sitting around all day thinking about what YOU think, how YOU feel, and what YOU’VE got going on.
As humans, we’re designed for survival mode, and we’re programmed to be focused on ourselves.
There’s nothing wrong with that at all, except for the fact that we so often forget that our makeup drives so much of what we do- we’re just as instinctual as animals.
So when you say the wrong thing in class or mess something up at work or didn’t do exactly what you think everyone expected you to do- not only are “they” not thinking about it, but they mostly don’t care, either.
This is a lesson we have to continue relearning because when we get embarrassed our tendency is to dwell on what other people think, but we can all find solace in the fact that people are so consumed with their own lives that they’re too busy to worry about you.
When you realize your little mess ups are not that important, you can save yourself the agony of embarrassment for days for something that most people stopped thinking about immediately after it happened.